Sunday, June 1, 2025

सहजता

आपल्याला आपली story बनवण्याची free will आहे. ही स्टोरी आपण बनवतच असतो. 

आपण जगाकडे आपल्या धारणांच्या भिंगातून पाहतो. एकीकडे धारणा आणि दुसरीकडे ego या दोन्ही च्या मधे खरतर सहजता वाहत असते. पण त्यात शिरण्यासाठी हे दोन्ही किनारे सोडावे लागतात. आपण लटकत राहतो मधेच, जस्टिफिकेशन आणि excuses च्या कोलांट्या उड्या मारत.

धारणांची बादली.. त्यात चांगल्या वाईटचे रंग..

आपला ego हे रंग पकडतो. आवड नावड ठरते.

तेच सत्य आहे असं समजतो. त्याच्यासाठी आयुष्य पणाला लावतो

Ego च्या कचाट्यातून सुटायच. ट्रिगर, भावना पहायला शिकायचं, मनाचे खेळ पहायचे आणि धारणा सिरीयसली घ्यायच्या नाहीत, कोणी काहीही बोलतात ते मनाच्या नख्या घट्ट पकडतात हे लक्षात घ्यायचे.

आपल्या मनाच्या या सगळ्या कारभाराकडे पाहत रहायचे. मंद हसायाचे आणि सहज मजेत रहायचे.



Friday, April 23, 2021

स्थैर्यातील खळबळ

 7 habits of highly effective people या पुस्तकाच्या अनुषंगाने मी सेशन घेत असते. हे पुस्तक स्वतःचे व्यक्तिमत्व घडवण्यासाठी अनेक अवघड प्रश्नांना आपल्याला सामोरे करवते. स्वतःच्या डोळ्यातील मुसळ दिसत नाही हि म्हण इतकी बरोबर आहे कि या पुस्तकात नमूद केलेल्या प्रक्रियेतून जाताना व त्याबद्दल लोकांशी बोलताना कायम एक प्रश्न पुढे यायचा; कि या सगळ्याची, म्हणजे स्वतःवर इतके काम करण्याची काय आवश्यकता आहे. आम्ही आहोत ते छान आहोत, आयुष्यात गोष्टी achieve केलेल्या आहेत. उगीचः स्वतःचे दोष धुंडाळून दु:खी होण्यात काय अर्थ आहे. या विधानच समाधानकारक उत्तर मी देऊ शकायची नाही.

आज अचानक मी माझ्या belief तपासण्यासाठी एक प्रश्नावली सोडवत असताना अस लक्षात आल कि; माझ्या काही आत रुतून बसलेल्या धरणांमुळे, मी माझ्या आयुष्यात एका टप्प्यावर थांबले आहे. त्या प्रश्नावलीने माझ्या मनाचा तळ ढवळून काढला आणि मला unsettle केलं. पुढची पायरी चढण्यासाठी I am not enough आणि त्यासाठी नेमकं काय करायला हवाय तेही मला ती प्रश्नावली सोडवताना कळत गेलं. मला छान वाटल, डोळे पाण्याने भरले. पुढच्या वाटचालीसाठीची चाल मिळाली. आणि माझ्या एकदम अस लक्ष्यात आल कि माझी सध्याची अस्वस्थता या थांबलेपणामुळे आली होती. माझी तगमग होत होती पण त्याचे कारण आपल्या आतच दडले आहे हे कळत नव्हते.

आपली growth हि spiral स्वरुपाची असते. पण तरीही प्रत्येक टप्प्यावर स्वतःला परिपूर्ण समजून आपण थांबतो. त्यामुळे एक प्रकारची complacency येते.  तश्या तऱ्हेच्या ego boosting ची गरजहि असते मधून अधून, पण तो शेवट नाही हे आपल्याला कोणीतरी सांगितलं पाहिजे. किंवा मधून अधून आपण स्वतःला unsettle करण्याची काहीतरी व्यवस्था केली पाहिजे. डिवचून डिवचून रवंथ करत बसलेल्या स्वतःला उठवून चालते केले पाहिजे.

माणसाची उत्क्रांती हि मेंदूची उत्क्रांती आहे. मेंदू आपल्याला विकासासाठी सतत उद्युक्त करत राहतो. पण समाजानी लहानपणापासून सांगितलेल्या आणि बिंबवलेल्या काही स्टोरीज मुळे, पैसे मिळाले, प्रसिद्धी /नाव मिळाल, पोर मार्गी लागली कि आपण स्वतःला कृतकृत्य समजतो. आपली चालू असलेली नेहमीची (मेंदूची) कामे थांबवतो आणि आयुष्य उपभोगण्यासाठी स्वतःला मोकळ करतो. पण या मोकळ्या काळात माणूस सुखी होतो का? का एकटा होतो? का अस्वस्थ होतो? समाजानी दिलेल्या सुखाच्या व्याख्या खरच त्याला सुखी करतात का? असा विचार मला सतावू लागला.

कोणत्याही पद्धतीने थांबण्यात एक प्रकारची stagnancy असते. तुम्ही तुमची बुद्धी न वापरल्यास ती नकारात्मक विचार, आयुष्याबद्दलची निरर्थकता यात स्वताचे विचार convert करू शकते. Veronika decides to die या Paulho Cohelo ने लिहिलेल्या पुस्तकात वेरोनिका २४ वर्षाची असते आणि तिला आयुष्यात कोणताही प्रॉब्लेम नसतो पण आता जगून झाल यापुढे आणखी आयुष्यात काय असणार आहे असे तिला वाटते. आत्तापर्यंत जगलेल्याचीच पुनरावृत्ती होणार असेल; तर आयुष्यात काही  राम नाही असे समजून ती आत्महत्या करते. सधन देशांमध्ये survival च कोणतेही challenge नसणे हा एक फिलोसॉफीकल प्रश्न आहे. Artificial intelligence च्या सानिध्यातील आपल्या नजीकच्या भविष्यकाळात मानवी जीवनाची निरर्थकता हा वैश्विक प्रश्न निर्माण होण्याची शक्यता युवान हरारी व इतर भविष्यवेत्ते मांडत आहेत. त्याची चुणूक करोना काळातहि आपण पहिली आहे.

आपणही समाजाने दिलेल्या स्टोरीच्या फशी पडून अशी आत्महत्याच करतो का? शारीरिक नाही तर हि बुद्धीची आत्महत्या आहे ही. मेंदूला रोज नवनवीन खाद्य लागते, ते एका पातळीवर, त्या पातळीवर त्याची जी भूक असते तेवढ खाद्य मिळेनास झाल कि मेंदू शरीरात एक प्रकारची अस्वस्थता निर्माण करतो का? ज्याला आपण existential crisis, midlife blues, एकाकीपणा, निरर्थकता अशी नवे दिली आहेत का? आपण आपला मेंदू ज्या प्रकारची निर्मिती करण्यात किंवा समस्या सोडवण्यात आनंद मिळवतो ते करत राहिलो आणि त्यामध्ये स्वतः वर काम करत स्वतःच्या व्यक्तिमत्वातील barrier ओलांडत गेलो तर; आपण आपल्यासाठी तयार केलेल्या मानसिक समस्या स्वतःचे परीक्षण करत सोडवू शकू का? याचसाठी life long learning ची आवश्यकता आहे अस म्हटलं जात कि काय हा मुद्दा मला सतावतोय? हे learning विषय शिकण्यासाठी गरजेचे नसून स्वतःला उन्नत करत नेणे आहे असे मला वाटते.

पूर्वीच्या निवृत्ती च्या कल्पनेत आणि सध्याच्या निवृत्तीच्या कल्पनेत फारच फरक पडला आहे. पूर्वी निवृत्तीनंतर स्वतःच्या  शोधात व अध्यात्मिक उन्नतीसाठी माणूस बाहेर पडायचा. या उन्नतीसाठी तो स्वतःच्या मेंदूचा विकास साधत असे. सर्वसंग परित्याग करण्यासाठी व्यक्तीला खूप गोष्टी unlearn कराव्या लागतात. त्यामध्ये त्याचा मेंदू व्यस्त असायचा, आणि ती एक प्रकारची growth आहे. मानवी विकास हा मेंदूचा विकास आहे. आयुष्याच्या कोणत्याही टप्प्यावर हा विकास थांबला तर व्यक्ती dysfunctional होते असे कि काय असे मला वाटू लागले आहे. हा अतिशय अर्धवट विचार असेलही पण तो आता माझ्या मनात मूळ धरू लागला आहे.   

माझा ब्लॉग अशाच अर्धवट विचारांनी भरलेला असणार याची मला कल्पना होती बहुतेक म्हणून त्याच नावही Half embrace आहे  

Saturday, May 9, 2020

Exit strategy for Lockdown

Risk optimization between the health threat and economic survival.

As of any Risk management, even for this situation of pandemic; application of resources to minimize, monitor, and control the probability or impact of unfortunate events and maximizing the realization of opportunities available for minimal damage is the aim. Uncertainty is core to risk management and so addressing the assumptions and uncertainty explicitly is very important at this juncture.

Living with Corona-

 Assumptions and approach on which these suggestions are based:

  • The pandemic has spread its net from Jan to march 15th and might erupt at unprecedented quarters. The present zones are being altered after  detection of cases in that area.The cases have been there for some  amount of time; before they got detected.
  • We entered in the battle of Corona at a stage where possibility of existence of community transmission in some way,has already happened. It is evident in the socio-economic pattern of red zone localities. Breaking the chain is not completely possible even by extending the lockdown, as we are fighting to trace a non-traceable major chunk of asymptomatic patients.
  • Though the lockdown has certainly helped in flattening the curve.
  •  Considering the deaths occurred till date, despite difficult living conditions in slums and immigrant camps and high density of population; we can say that COVID19 has not affected our country severely compared to few western countries.
  • The core purpose of the lockdown was to buy time to implement a strategy to tackle the virus, to prepare for the final lifting of the lockdown and to prepare for a 'new normal' till the vaccine or medicine becomes available.
  •  Creating systems to arrest the criticality of symptomatic patients well before it arises and saving critical patients by providing state of art health care services,will prove the important and impact creating intervention.
  • The further waves of pandemic may surprise us if they occur at unexpected districts or mutation happens in an unprecedented way or the patients grow in large numbers during monsoon.
  • Yet, we cannot wait to start economic activities as almost everyone is affected economically during the pandemic, and no phasing out would be required for rolling out economic activities.
  •  We may give option to people whether they want to be part of the workforce, taking risk in favor of earning or they would like to be at home without salary and provide them some Income protection scheme as suggested by WHO.
  • We may give them subsistence allowance for six months or till the time when the medicine or vaccine is available whichever is earlier (3000 in urban areas, 2000 in rural areas)
  • The same allowance may be given to those who were working before lockdown and are falling under vulnerable categories and would not be working during this period.
  • Opening of the lockdown should be without conditions except the general corona care, to make governance simple.
  • The economy is facing many problems, at this stage and it needs support from government. It should not be burdened by more and more permissions/restrictions and unnecessary monitoring for COVID19.
  • Passage of transportation of goods should be allowed without any restriction as the economy needs seamless entry. 
  • Based on this zoning government may stop the activities for flimsy reasons of any area becoming red zone. This should be avoided at all costs.
  • Doctors and medical staff are the warriors of the disaster. They must be protected, comforted, equipped, trained and provided with right system. A PPP model incorporating strengths and efficiency of private medical sector may be banked upon for making the health care system vibrant and responsive.
  • The total approach should be made consultative and participative. We need to shift from policing and regulating to consent based policies. WHO recognizes the lockdown and other restrictive tools are blunt and have major socio-economic costs.Any further restrictive measures may be imposed with consent and participation of community.
  • Government need not take the whole risk of decision making of lifting lockdown. Employees may share the risk if they want to opt for joining duties by giving consent to the employer. The  employer may cover its employees with corona defined benefit insurance. The government should take the responsibility of building an effective CORONA care system and treat the patients with utmost care and diligence. Create credibility and trust in the minds of people about the health care system so that they enter into economic arena without much fear.
  • Government should do some awareness advertising for creating an environment about movement for purposes other than economic reasons. This would create social shaming for even smaller parties and gatherings and may be avoided by people.
  • As the people have learnt the seriousness of the disease and will follow the coughing/ masking /hand washing and distancing protocol.
  • Health department may handle the Corona crisis strongly and government should work on preparedness for monsoons and monitoring and preparedness for spikes


 Strategy for easing out the Lock down-

Type of intervention

Purpose

Strategy

Explanation

Health care by health dept.

Reducing COVID mortality cases

A strong hub and spoke system of corona care involving all GPs and a specialized COVID hospital to arrest / detect the Critical patient in advance

As the patients are connected to their General practitioners and the GPs know the health history of patients, they can be a more equipped to detect the criticality level of the patients. They could be convenient and effective point of reference due to their local acquaintance and social connect. GPs can be trained and equipped with safety gears and the criticality identification and handling  protocol for potential corona affected persons.

Getting data of patients for targeting the COVID testing priority

GPs should be given a protocol of different stages of criticality, and work with them in PPP mode (like TB), reschedule the drugs for cough and fever like symptoms in H1 drug category, so the data is available with medical stores. Get the information of reasons of hospital deaths.

These can be tools to capture all the symptomatic patients by using an app developed for this purpose. Instead of sending people for tracing contacts of patients and travelers.

This information can be monitored by call centers and control room by using their cell numbers.  

Control room

A vigilant control room and call Centre for making the system alert and responsive

The control room communication with right people will boost their confidence in the system

Awareness and care for vulnerable patients

Create awareness about vulnerable categories and request them and those who are sick to home quarantine themselves.

The registration of vulnerable patients can be done by providing assistance of GPs. The control room may help them by calling them periodically and updating their health status

Testing and digital monitoring

Will only culminate into home quarantine and hospital care. The app will be connected to all doctors/medical stores/ Hospitals/ and call center

This will help capture the data of person even if he buys a crocin/ paracetamol tablet.

Economy

Sharing risk with industry

Industry to maintain distance and masking protocol and hand-washing

The micro-planning may be done by each industry for maintaining protocol suggested by Govt, no government involvement will be there except on complaint.

Insurance Scheme

Insuring  employees against Corona by employer and Govt can contribute in that

There are already corona special plans Insurance plans in Market

Sharing risk with employees

Consent letter to employer for willingness to enter into the economic activity despite ongoing Corona pandemic. Those who opt for staying home may be considered for subsistence allowance.

The risk of opening of the economy may be shared by government by taking employee consent and insurance of the employee against corona treatment by the employer

Normal operations without any kind of permission

As the red zone and green zone are interdependent for economic transactions, economy will only thrive if there is restriction of movement.

The movement will be allowed without conditions. Except health protocols, which are common to all.Especially Agriculture and industrial Cargo movement should be allowed freely across state/ country. The protocol can be given for handling Cargo like disinfection protocol.

Malls or markets and hotels discouraged regular activities

They may go for digital marketing and home delivery mode

This may engage their staff in productive activities.

Other important activities

Schools and colleges

May work on digital mode as far as possible, consent of parents may be taken for attendance if any. As a contingency home schooling will be recognized for this year and the students may be allowed to take up exams and remedial classes after the real normal

Digital interventions may be encouraged. DD national may take up lectures on TV for Classes by experts on all subjects may be initiated on national TV as it can reach to the rural and remote areas too. The teachers will be in school preparing for alternative options

Risk mitigation by government

Monitoring present and potential Red zone localities /clusters for risks

Monitor these zones for vibrant interventions and quick remedies, by a special task force of government till the medicine or vaccine is found

Strengthening disaster risk governance to manage disastrous risk, Enhancing disaster preparedness for effective response. These zones will be monitored for better health services and not for movement.

Monitor Contingencies

Contingencies like mutation of virus and response to monsoon weather may raise an alarm, work with specialists for devising right strategies

Team of Health experts and senior administrators could be set up to monitor and device the strategy

Crowd control strategies

Regulate transport and other necessities like APMC markets for avoiding intimate contact.

As the social gathering and school colleges are not to start functioning, the crowd would be considerably reduced.

Insurance scheme

May insure deaths due to Corona for persons travelling in Bombay locals

Mumbai Local may be an exception and it is a life line too so some innovative solution may be tried to come over this issue of starting local trains like opting Insurance schemes for passengers travelling from Locals

New normal

Individual care 

Use mask compulsory when out of home and when around the vulnerable population at home.

 

Societal restrictions

No social. Religious, entertainment gathering, meetings would be allowed

Create a media strategy to attach guilt around even small unnecessary social meeting during this time. We are opening economic activities without which we cannot fight with this Covid-19 situation for longer period of time. Any other unimportant gathering should be avoided at all cost.

Social assistance

Vulnerable people

Pregnant women, women with child upto the age of 10, people over the age of 50, people who are on medicine of BP/diabetes/heart disease for last 6 months. And working before the lockdown, with their aadhar and address proof.

 

People who opt out for fear of Corona

Have denied the salary, option may be given subsistence allowance for shifting to other forms of employment which allows working from home or with less contact

 


Friday, May 1, 2020

Are we afraid of Corona or deaths caused by Corona?


“Choosing ‘important interventions’ over ‘less important’ will help in handling the pandemic.”

It’s been a month since the nation-wide lockdown in India is in force. The primary objective of the lockdown was to reduce close human-to-human contact, in the hope that this intervention will considerably slow down the spread of the virus. Perhaps we also assumed the lockdown will somehow eliminate the virus. 

India’s response to the situation was based on the horrifying experiences of countries like Italy, America, and Iran. Fear of COVID-19 had already reached people’s minds equating it with death, total devastation, and end of the world. It was speculated that India’s population of 130 crores might be an unfavorable disadvantage in its fight against Corona. Considering the size of the population, socio-economic conditions, density, and social habits of people; handling the pandemic seemed to be an impossible task. However, the current situation has surprised us pleasantly. Although the number of Corona related deaths in our country is worrisome, considering the population it is not alarming. 

The pandemic was acknowledged by WHO on January, 30th 2020 after the virus appeared to have already penetrated in a few countries. On March 22nd, India suspended the operations of international flights. Every day, approximately 70,000 people arrive in India from other countries. Considering the span of 45 days between the two milestones, approximately 3,000,000 people crossed our borders. If we assume a small number of travelers entered as asymptomatic carriers, that can imply a significant number of infected individuals were already in the country by the time lockdown was declared. These people must have interacted with more people across the country. To further validate the argument, the red zone localities are mostly low socio-economic pockets where people with no international travel history have been tested positive.

This impossible objective of reducing the spread of the virus has led to a series of consequential actions. As we continue the lockdown, the government is overwhelmed by dealing with various aspects of the pandemic such as testing, policing the closure, supplying adequate essentials, and providing medical attention to patients. While the lockdown can be an impactful strategy to cope with the first stage of the outbreak, in the current situation the government should exclusively focus on the crucial healthcare measures. The lockdown has diverted the government’s efforts and resources in the peripheral activities.

It is practically impossible to conduct tests on a large number of population and chasing down potential people that may have been in contact with every COVID-19 patient. Many countries have limited their testing efforts to people in critical conditions and most likely to get exposed to the virus (for example, healthcare workers). Due to the country’s restricted mobility, activities like policing, closing down roads, punishing morning walkers, and maintaining law and order are exhausting the government resources and frontline workers.  As the nation-wide lockdown continues, the economy is at a standstill and migrant labor workers are stuck in shelter camps. Maintaining physical distancing seems next to impossible in densely populated areas due to peculiar socio-economic conditions.

In order to effectively deal with the pandemic situation, we have to come out of the fear-based arguments and have a thoughtful look at what we focus on moving forward. Do we want to focus on reducing the spread of COVID-19 or do we want to limit the number of deaths?

The Key Question: Should we be afraid of COVID19 or the death toll it takes?

 

If the death toll is our main reason for concern then we should be focusing on analyzing, preventing, and overcoming deaths with an aggressive plan of action. In this state of emergency, other supplementary activities should not distract the government’s vision and focus. If we are afraid of the death toll it may take, the government’s first and foremost priority should be the patients with a high probability of reaching the critical state. The communication to citizens, strategic efforts, and expenditure of financial and human resources should be concentrated on survival and recovery of the critically ill patients. 

Hence, let the government be focused on saving individual deaths and make that the prime activity while handling the pandemic. 

COVID-19 patients can be widely divided into 3 categories. Asymptomatic (no symptoms), victims displaying mild to moderate symptoms and critical victims (patients needing oxygen, ventilators, and/or intensive care). Almost 70% of the COVID-19 victims who are tested positive are asymptomatic. On the other side of the spectrum, approximately only 3% of infected patients reach the critical conditions which can potentially result in death.

Considering only a small percentage of patients end up needing intensive care, our focus should not be at engaging our limited medical, financial, and human resources in asymptomatic victims, patients with mild symptoms, and potentially infected people. This groups the virus in the same category of influenza for the majority of the population. Hospitalizing patients withmild symptoms is an unnecessary load on the healthcare facilities.

Focus of Government - only on Critical patient care

 

If we accept this reality, then only the critical cases should be escalated to hospitals for intensive care and treatment. We need to arrest the criticality much before it arises. This is the point of concentration in the whole operation against the pandemic. The focus of the government should swiftly shift from too many interventions in all directions to only one goal i.e. to avoid the deaths due to the virus as far as possible. This is the worldwide recommended strategy at this stage of spread because this is ‘crucial’. This is best illustrated in the following Sanskrit couplet:

अनाराम्भो ही कार्याणाम्  प्रथमं  बुद्धिलक्षणम्

 The first and foremost thing a strategist should know is, ‘what not to do’.

Therefore, we need a well-executed protocol to identify the criticality of the suspected disease and to recognize the golden hours for the patient in need.

Proposed system:

 

Strengthen the identification systems for serious patients

  1. Create a ‘hub and spoke model’ to capture the inflow of potential critical patients in the vicinity with existing general practitioners and a COVID specialty state of the art hospital. Create an app for facilitating the actual operations
  2. An adequate number of PPE kits, ventilators, oxygen cylinders and other necessary logistical support should be provided to the specialty centers. Also, provide safety gadgets and other necessary equipment for GPs.
  3. A well-led protocol for handling different levels of the criticality of COVID-19 patients and for their needs to be strictly monitored. Build the success criteria of operations around them.
  4. Health care workers should be made comfortable mentally and physically by providing the right equipment, safety gadgets, resting facilities, rotating schedules, and other social facilities to keep them in good protective care. They are the real warriors who will fight this battle for the country.
  5. Monitor people who are highly susceptible to the virus such as – elderly citizens, pregnant women, patients with underlying conditions, young children, as well as people residing in pockets of severe viral threats with the help of local leaders, NGOs, and interns. (in case of an alert, convey contingencies to the GPs in the locality)

Government efforts could be concentrated on –

  1. Reducing fear of the word ‘corona’ by effective advertisement campaign. Create acceptance of the situation  instead of fear.
  2. Restrict social gatherings only. The norms of hand washing, masks, and physical distancing at public places should be followed by people. Community pressure may be effectively used in this situation
  3. Reducing points of daily monitoring only to critical care.  Other than severely affected areas, monitoring should be for serious contingencies only. Detecting corona cases, policing etc. should stop.

If this critical care system model gets implemented, the economic activities can start and they will not abruptly halt due to an outbreak of coronavirus which might keep coming in waves. There might be unforeseen contingencies as the nature of the spread of the virus can't be predicted. However, once the basic systems are established to mitigate the damage to the lives of people; all these contingencies may be handled with undivided attention.

The assumptions need to be changed to create an impactful system to address the most critical situation of this pandemic. The success of the battle against the virus depends upon focusing on ‘important’ and saying a big ‘NO’ to unimportant.


Tuesday, November 12, 2019

Emotional Detour


We at times take a long emotional detour in life. – चकवा लागल्यासारखी. म्हणजे जे अंतर अगदी कमी असते आणि सहज कापता येण्यासारखे असते, ते कापण्यासाठी आपण आयुष्याची अनेक वर्षे वाया घालवतो. एखादे सुर्हुदाबरोबर झालेलं भांडण आठवा, नात्यात झालेले गैरसमज असोत, हिंदी सिनेमात दाखवतात तशी खानदानी दुष्मनी असो - आपण रागावतो, भांडतो, अन्यायाच्या विरुद्ध उभे राहतो, आपण काटेरी होतो, आपल्याला टोकं येतात, भाषा बोचरी होते. मग आपण justification, आग्रह, दुराग्रह, दुरावा, एकटेपणा, depression, therapy, let go, forgivance अश्या चक्रातून जातो. ससेहोलपट, जगण्याचे चटके यांनी घायाळ होऊन आपली कणिक पार तिम्बली जाते. आणि मग आपण realization च्या थांब्यापाशी येतो. हे ठिकाण खरं तर प्रवास जिथून सुरु झाला त्या ठिकाणापेक्षा अजिबात वेगळे नसते. पण ‘ती जागा’ आता अधिक प्रगल्भ असते. लौटके बुद्धू घर आये म्हणतात ना तसच काहीतरी.


Pain takes us to destination ‘realization’. Some of us mature early because life showed us the worst side of the world at an early age. Sometimes, we need to be hurt in order to grow. We must lose in order to gain. Sometimes, some lessons are learned best through pain.


As Sadguru said, “Self-realization means to realize how foolish you have been. Everything has been right here within you and you did not get it.” No matter how long you have traveled in the wrong direction, you can always turn around. Sometimes it takes few years to get to that one moment that will change your perception and thereby your life.


खरंतर दु:ख suffering ही एक काल्पनिक गोष्ट आहे.it is different from pain... माणूस स्वत:भोवती दुःखाच एक काल्पनिक कुंपण बनवून घेतो. त्यातून तो स्वतःची आणि जगाची सहानभूती मिळवतो... आयुष्यातील प्रत्येक बदलाला एक धक्का लागतोच लागतो...जोवर एखादी बोच खोलवर रुतून टोचत नाही. श्वास घेणे अशक्य होत नाही, तोवर माणूस हातपाय मारण्याच्या भानगडीत पडत नाही. आयुष्याच्या एका क्षणी हट्ट सोडावा आणि उरलेले आयुष्य सुखासाठी जगावं हे जाणवते आणि मग माणसं बदलतात...! स्वतःच्या समजुती, दृष्टीकोन बदलणे हा एक मोठा प्रवास आहे.


The greater part of human pain is unnecessary. It is self-created as long as the unobserved mind runs your life. अस Eckhart Tolle म्हणतो. बोलायला, सल्ला द्यायला सोप वाटल तरी त्याप्रसंगातून जाताना – विचार, भावना, कृती च कडबोळ नामोहरम करत, आपल्याला खूप वेळ झुलवत ठेवतात. आपणहि त्या चकव्यात अडकतो. आपल्याच समजुतींचा चकवा! समजुतीत अडकलेले विचार फिरून फिरून मीच कसा बरोबर, मीच कसा असहाय्य, इतर कसे चूक याची ग्वाही देत, मीच कसा कमनशिबी अश्या स्वरचित गोष्टींच्या झुल्यावर बसून भोवळ आणतात पण पाठ काही सोडत नाहीत आणि या चक्रव्यूहातून मार्ग काही सापडत नाही. Spiritual healing is not just becoming free from pain, it is realizing that you were never really trapped. ~ James Keeley


याचं महत्वाच कारण म्हणजे आपण आपल्या आयुष्याची एक गोष्ट तयार केलेली असते. गोष्ट लिहिण्यात एक महत्वाचा भाग characterization चा असतो. जसं गोष्टीत एखाद character establish होण्यासाठी त्याच्या behavior चा आणि विचारांचा एक pattern तयार करावा लागतो. म्हणजे तो त्या कथेत villain किंवा हितचिंतक म्हणून establish होतो. त्यामुळे कथा probable होते आणि समोर बसलेल्या logical प्रेक्षकाला/ वाचकाला रुचते.  आपल्या आयुष्याची जी गोष्ट असते त्याचे मध्यवर्ती पात्र आपण स्वतः असतो. ज्याच्यात आपण भारी किंवा बिच्चारे किंवा unloved किंवा त्यागमूर्ती किंवा असे काहीतरी असतो. आपल्या या गोष्टीत facts ची वीण असते. पण गोष्टीतले रंग हे पूर्णपणे आपण भरलेले असतात. त्याला भावना चिकटलेल्या असतात. त्यामुळे ती गोष्ट दुसरे कोणी भेदू शकत नाही. आपल्यालाच ती भावनांची वीण, सोडवावी लागते. हि गुंतागुंत आपला खूप वेळ घेते. अगदी logically सोप्या वाटणाऱ्या गोष्टी psychologically entangled असतात.


आपल्या आयुष्याची गोष्ट दुसरी व्यक्ती अगदी वेगळ्या पद्धतीने सांगेल. जरी आपल्या आयुष्यातल्या सर्व घटनांना ती व्यक्ती साक्ष असेल तरीही. त्याच घटनांचा अर्थ ती व्यक्ती वेगळा लावेल. आपल्याला अवघड वाटणारे आपल्या आयुष्यातील प्रश्न त्या व्यक्तीला सहजसाध्य वाटतील कदाचित.


म्हणून आपल्या आयुष्याच्या आपल्या मनातल्या गोष्टीच ‘destorification’ केलं तर काही गुंते सहज सुटू शकतील, कारण एक काल्पनिक स्टोरी चा संदर्भ सुटला कि गोष्टी सुट्या-सुट्या होतील. एखाद्या आर्ट फिल्म सारख्या. सत्याच्या जवळ जाणाऱ्या, वेगवेगळी interpretation शक्य असलेल्या facts. स्टोरीचा कृत्रिम धागा आपल्याला आत्ता घडलेल्या घटनेचा भूतकाळातल्या एखाद्या गोष्टीशी आपल्याला वाटतो तसाच परस्पर संबद्ध आहे असा आभास निर्माण करतो. म्हणून Ekhart Tolle म्हणतो तसे “When you are present in this moment, you break the continuity of your story, of past and future, then true intelligence arises, and also love”